In
this fallen world, there are times when we feel very disappointed because we are
unable to understand people, especially dearly loved ones. We wish they
understand us – how much we care for them, how much we love them or how much we
value them – and our wishes hardly fulfilled. Sometimes we fear that people
will misunderstand us, feel that we are insensitive and we wish that they would
understand our in-depth nature or feelings. Why? It is because we cannot tell
someone what reality really is! We find ourselves hapless to express it. We
just ran out of words.
Here is one way, which I find very helpful in our relationship. I have learned over the years that when words fail to express what we want to express, presenting a Gift usually does the job. Once, I saw a hoarding on a gift shop (by the name Archies), "Gifts are much better than words to convey feelings." I thought to myself, “this is something worth pondering.” Presents or Gifts are very appropriate in many situations where our voice is unheard because some people are fed up with advice and lectures.
Here is one way, which I find very helpful in our relationship. I have learned over the years that when words fail to express what we want to express, presenting a Gift usually does the job. Once, I saw a hoarding on a gift shop (by the name Archies), "Gifts are much better than words to convey feelings." I thought to myself, “this is something worth pondering.” Presents or Gifts are very appropriate in many situations where our voice is unheard because some people are fed up with advice and lectures.
There
is a wisdom in the Scripture (Prov. 21:14) that says, "A gift in secret pacifies anger."
That is real, wonderfully and beautifully true. I have tried many times and
found it to be true all the times. In fact, that was the first Scripture I
practiced first in my life. It was during my high school days. Like everyone, I had
few classmates who were bullies, so annoying and irritating. One day, I decided
to practice what my Bible says. I gave him a sweet, and amazingly, he never
dared to bully me again. I also remember an incident while I was doing my
graduation in Stephen Hall, Shillong. A big, tough and rough guy almost kick me
because I was smarter and true to my argument. One fine but hungry afternoon, I
offered to treat him in a restaurant, he got confused, embarrassed and at the
same time felt so honored, since then we have been good friends.
We
also do find the amazing story in the Bible – the story of David, how Abigail
pacified his anger towards Nabal, by bringing those packages of foodstuffs (1Samuel
25). If you have enemies, if you have tempered friends or any critical
people, may I suggest that you try it with love, truth, and faith. Perhaps, it
may be the only convincing way for them to realize that you love, care and
value them. I agree that Gifts, many times come to rescue when words fail to
express. Have we not heard the famous line "action speaks louder than sound?"
By
the way, whenever you receive something, I do not mean to imply that they give
you because you are bad, but it would be very good to ponder what the deeper
meaning could be. Let us be thinking people, not just quick to receive
anything. At the same time, let us be people who love giving gifts and presents
to all sorts of people.